5 Daily Actions to Build Your Self-Confidence


Everyone struggles with confidence from time to time. The way we feel about ourselves greatly influences the way we live. A lack of self-confidence will only limit you. Confidence will help you realize that you will be okay, regardless of what happens. The good news is that self-confidence can be learned. Here’s how:

You can get there from here.

1- Use Positive Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements designed to reprogram your mind. You can write them down or repeat them to yourself.

2- List the Good Stuff

Make two lists: one for your strengths and one for your achievements. You may not be very objective if you are struggling with low self-esteem, so get a friend or a relative to help you.

3- Give Yourself Permission to Make Mistakes

We often look at others and think that everyone is happier than us. What we don’t see is that even those that are successful in one area, likely struggle in others. Allow yourself to be a learner. It’s okay to make mistakes along the way. You may even become an inspiration for others.

4- Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a way of focusing your attention and accepting your thoughts and feelings without judgment. It allows you to stay in your body and just watch your thoughts passing. By not identifying with your thoughts, you learn to live in the moment which is a key to confidence.

5- Face a Fear

When your afraid of the outcome, you won’t go into a situation with confidence. If you don’t face it, it will control you. Facing your fears will liberate you and give you a sense of pride. Make a commitment to do something that scares you every day.

It’s a process. Confidence is not something you achieve once and just keep for the rest of your life. It takes work to build, develop and maintain. But, when you know the sources of healthy self-confidence, you can work towards it.

Dr. Dan Quinn

Clinical Director - Licensed Clinical Psychologist (CA23350), Dan supervised the therapy and research of doctoral students at The Wright Institute, in Berkeley, where he has been a clinical supervisor. He has spent many years studying a multitude of therapy techniques, including relational psychoanalytic, cognitive behavioral, gestalt, solution-focused, and Internal Family Systems. He draws from all of them, depending upon the needs of the client at a particular point in the process. Dan was certified as a Positive Psychology coach after studying with its founder, Dr. Martin Seligman. He has 35 years of experience in the corporate arena, and was the CEO of a highly successful technology consulting firm.

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