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Skype appointments

Crazy Busy? Did You Know That We Offer Skype Appointments?

A lot of our clients are, how to put it, pressed for time. They often use terms like, “Hectic,” “Stressed,” and, “Crazy busy.” If Crazy Busy was a real diagnosis, we could say there’s...
successful therapy

Factors that predict successful therapy.

It’s Better If You Go For It. We know a ton about what makes therapy successful. For example, research has repeatedly found that, of all the factors that predict a successful therapy (like various...
tim edwards

Tim Edwards: The Coach From Down Under

When Tim Edwards grew up in Australia, somebody who said you were sensitive was challenging you to a fight. Tim was sensitive. He had to learn how to manage some very tough situations, without...

Doing Couples Therapy Like Sully Sullenberger

Sully Sullenberger was piloting an Airbus A320 with about 150 people sitting behind him when birds flew into both his engines, and suddenly he was dropping through the air in a silent airplane. What...
conversation

If You’re Not Doing This, You’re Having The Wrong Conversation

What you want to do is create an agreement with each other that when we’re starting to get escalated, an alarm goes off. You know,  “wait a minute, I want to have a conversation...
micro-expressions

Micro-expressions: Reading the Truth in a Person’s Face

Ever wonder why someone seems nice, but you feel uncomfortable around them? Consider the possibility that negative emotions are “leaking” out of them in what researcher Paul Ekman terms, micro-expressions. Learning to read them...
feeling good

Want to Build a Habit? Focus on Feeling Good.

The NY Times ran an article today (http://nyti.ms/1fXyhww) summarizing data on what keeps people exercising that might surprise you. It’s all about feeling good.   “People whose goals are weight loss and better health...
Emotions

Emotions: Why you should watch “Inside Out”

This animated blockbuster goes into the mind of an 11-year-old girl named Riley as she moves across the country with her family — and her emotions: Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger, and Disgust.   It’s...
happy couples

Happy Couples: Great Guide to Talking to Your Partner

Dr. John Gottman had the idea to study how unhappy and happy couples talk to each other, and compare. About 40 years later, we know a LOT. For example, there are four primary ways...
a minute

Now Please Hold On a Minute…

My mentor Tom Richardson says he wishes he had a 6′ tall statue of Goofy in his psychoanalytic office as a constant reminder of the impossibility of perfection. Two features of the book unfolding...